Talking about scars can make for pretty interesting and illuminating conversation, but as with anything, there’s a right way and a wrong way to do it. Molly O’Shea — a body-positive coach, health coach, and personal trainer — recently published a post on her blog addressing just this.
O’Shea has prominent scarring on her right arm as a result of a horrible car accident. “I fractured my neck, along with some pretty other painful injuries, including scars on my right arm,” she explained in the About Me section of her website. “Just to put into perspective how serious it was, I fractured my neck where [actor] Christopher Reeve [who played Superman] did. He became quadriplegic due to his neck fracture. Thankfully, I survived.”
In a post titled, “How to Ask Someone About Their Scars,” O’Shea discusses the polite way to inquire so that the person with the scar isn’t offended, or made to go through recounting what may have been an extremely traumatic experience. “For me, when people are genuine when they ask, I can feel that,” she wrote. “Usually the question will start with ‘Do you mind if I asked what happened to your arm?’ Every time someone asks me, especially with that beginning, I always say, ‘No, I don’t mind at all; thank you for asking.'”
Check out the full article on Yahoo! Lifestyle!